Standing up for Men

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(my collar is ripstop cotton camo)

I’ve known Laura Schlessinger personally for about 35 years now. I met her when she struck up a conversation with me in a shopping mall across the street from the radio station where she worked. Yes, that means that I knew her before she married, had a son, etc. And for those of you who are running the abacus, she’s about ten years older than I am.

Some of you undoubtably are annoyed by her radio program(s). However, she’s a generally squared away woman, likes to shoot, sail and practice martial arts, etc.

In previous discussions with her (no, she’s not my shrink), we’ve chatted about how women are often insulted that men are essentially not always trying to out-think women. Men are simply not all that complicated. They often deal with the “how to” of life in their thoughts and musings and are usually not all that subtle (dog vs cat/Mars vs Venus).

A woman looks into the mirror and sees all of her flaws. A (straight) man looks in the mirror first thing in the morning and thinks, ‘I look pretty damned good’. Men and women encounter the world differently. I realize that it’s not politically correct to point that out.

So having been invited a Christmas party (Seasonal Holiday Gathering in political correct speak) at her manse, I decided to comment on her book, since the invitation brought the book to mind.

This Sunday Sermonette (the first of two today) comes from her 2006 book, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands.

Women want to be in love, get married, and live happily ever after. Yet disrespect for men and disregard for the value, feelings, and needs of husbands has fast become the standard for male-female relations in America. Those two attitudes clash in unfortunate ways to create struggle and strife in what could be a beautiful relationship.

The mainstream media and situation comedies have a few target groups who are always fair game in a world of political correctness. The stand-out group is men and more particularly, husbands.  This same group of politically correct fools works hard to break down traditional marriage and family values. Schlessinger has a different point of view.

From a review: The women who criticize their husbands in the stories that Schlessinger relates are depressed in their marriages and feel little love from their husbands. Unabashedly asserting that man is a “very simple creature,” who needs only “direct communication, respect, appreciation, food, and good loving’” to respond with devotion, compassion and love, this controversial marriage and family therapist claims that every woman can achieve a deeply satisfying marriage if she adheres to certain fundamentals men require. Preparing dinner, caring for the children without complaint, greeting her husband with a kiss and engaging in sexual intimacy instead of “tearing down a husband’s necessary sense of strength and importance” can result in the harmonious marriage women crave. While many of her listeners and readers claim her unequivocal advice has salvaged teetering marriages and improved marital harmony, others perceive Schlessinger as a throwback to what many see as years of female oppression in the home.

Yes, I understand that many modern women find this song incredibly insulting in a general sense.
And NO, it’s not a general indictment of women. There is no hidden agenda in this blog post. It is what it is without subliminal intent.
This appeals more to men (and yes, we do think about sex all of the time) than the typical post-modern female rant.

8 thoughts on “Standing up for Men

  1. I wonder how Barry would weigh in on this topic, being the consummate married male and all. Although in his own words, he did 'punish' Michelle with two babies.

    Oh well. Even Ted Williams (another model male figure) struck out from time to time.

  2. This post doesn't apply to closet homosexuals. They run on a different set of rules, and I have no idea what those are. AND I'd rather not know. There are things in this world (such as the way Elizabeth – Fake Indian – Warren looks naked) that are not worth knowing.

  3. Bill Zorn, George Grove, Rick Dougherty, Bob Shane, Nick Reynolds, Dave Guard, John Stewart, Jim Connor, Pat Horine, Roger Gambill and Bob Haworth were all members of the Kingston Trio. I have no idea who the original three were.

  4. Dr Laura: I listened to her radio program for a while, when my work break allowed, years ago. Enjoyed her pithy answers!

  5. From what I have read, you are about the only guy she ever met who didn't lay her down. Not that is a bad thing, but like Moochelle and Hitlery, she road in on the…uh… coattails of men.

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