|New Symbol for the Sunday
(my collar is ripstop cotton camo)
I’ve known Laura Schlessinger personally for about 35 years now. I met her when she struck up a conversation with me in a shopping mall across the street from the radio station where she worked. Yes, that means that I knew her before she married, had a son, etc. And for those of you who are running the abacus, she’s about ten years older than I am.
Some of you undoubtably are annoyed by her radio program(s). However, she’s a generally squared away woman, likes to shoot, sail and practice martial arts, etc.
In previous discussions with her (no, she’s not my shrink), we’ve chatted about how women are often insulted that men are essentially not always trying to out-think women. Men are simply not all that complicated. They often deal with the “how to” of life in their thoughts and musings and are usually not all that subtle (dog vs cat/Mars vs Venus).
A woman looks into the mirror and sees all of her flaws. A (straight) man looks in the mirror first thing in the morning and thinks, ‘I look pretty damned good’. Men and women encounter the world differently. I realize that it’s not politically correct to point that out.
So having been invited a Christmas party (Seasonal Holiday Gathering in political correct speak) at her manse, I decided to comment on her book, since the invitation brought the book to mind.
Women want to be in love, get married, and live happily ever after. Yet disrespect for men and disregard for the value, feelings, and needs of husbands has fast become the standard for male-female relations in America. Those two attitudes clash in unfortunate ways to create struggle and strife in what could be a beautiful relationship.
From a review: The women who criticize their husbands in the stories that Schlessinger relates are depressed in their marriages and feel little love from their husbands. Unabashedly asserting that man is a “very simple creature,” who needs only “direct communication, respect, appreciation, food, and good loving’” to respond with devotion, compassion and love, this controversial marriage and family therapist claims that every woman can achieve a deeply satisfying marriage if she adheres to certain fundamentals men require. Preparing dinner, caring for the children without complaint, greeting her husband with a kiss and engaging in sexual intimacy instead of “tearing down a husband’s necessary sense of strength and importance” can result in the harmonious marriage women crave. While many of her listeners and readers claim her unequivocal advice has salvaged teetering marriages and improved marital harmony, others perceive Schlessinger as a throwback to what many see as years of female oppression in the home.